Am I with the right partner?

During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?"

The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind replied the author.

Here's the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet."Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.

Because (listen carefully to this):

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO.

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You know what?

One day you'll meet a guy. And ultimately hes going to find out. 
How you chew, how you sip, how you dance, how you smell at every point in the day.
The fact that the most of you're friends are shallow.
How your face looks underneath all your makeup.
How you love chocolates, how you can be hyper at times, how certain
games and shows make you happy. how cranky you can get when
your tired how you think you look bad in all your Facebook photos.
He's going to know everything about you. And you know what?
HE'S STILL GOING TO LOVE YOU! And I really hope you find that man SOON.
Because me? I've already found mine. So, good luck! :)

Be strong.

BE STRONG. A phrase that is easy to say but a hard thing to do specially when you're broken. But maybe someday, you'll forget the hurt, the reason why you cried and who caused you the pain. You will finally realize that the secret of being free is not revenge, but letting things unfold in their own way and own time. After all, what matters most is not the first, but the last chapter of your life which shows how well you ran the race. So SMILE, LAUGH, FORGIVE, TRUST, BELIEVE and LOVE ALL OVER AGAIN.

Untitled.

Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? 

It makes you so vulnerable. 

It opens your chest and it opens up your heart 

and it means that someone can get inside you 

and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, 

you build up a whole suit of armor, 

so that nothing can hurt you, 

then one stupid person, 

no different from any other stupid person, 

wanders into your stupid life. You give them a piece of you. 

They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, 

like kiss you or smile at you, 

and then your life isn't your own anymore.

Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. 

It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, 

so simple a phrase like "maybe we should be just friends" 

turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. 

It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. 

It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. 

I hate love. But I love you. And that explains it all.

You.

You're the first thing I think of
each morning when I rise
You're the last thing I think of
when I close my eyes

You're in each thought I have
and every breath I take
My feelings are growing stronger
with every move you make

You're an angel from above
who takes away my pain
My love for you is so strong
it's always just the same

You're the miracle in my life
who can always make me smile
Just knowing that you care
makes my life worth-while

You've touched my heart and soul
which you have from the start
Your warm soft words
will never leave my heart

You are everything I want
you're so pure and true
I love you with everything I have
and I love everything that you do.


- Anonymous.

Ikaw na nga.

Madaming bagay dito sa mundo na sadyang hindi maipaliwanag. Paano ko nasabi 'yun? Sabihin na nating nararanasan ko ito ngayon. Nagmamahal ako ng isang taong hindi ko inakalang mamahalin ko. Sinubukan kong pigilan ito dahil ayoko nang muling masaktan. Pero sa pag daan ng mga araw, unti - unti ko na lang nakikita ang sariling kong nahuhulog na sa kanya. Pinilit kong itago ito sa lahat ng taong malapit sa akin. Masasabi kong ginawa ko ang lahat para iwasan ang nararamdaman ko ngunit sa hindi maipaliwanag na dahilan, hindi ko ito napigilan. Wala akong nagawa. Ang nasabi ko na lang sa sarili ko "mahal ko na talaga sya". Hindi ko naman pinagsisihan na minahal ko ang taong 'yon. In fact, masaya ako kasi lagi ko na syang kasama ngayon. Nasasabi ko na sa kanya ang mga bagay na dati'y tinatago ko lamang. Napipicture out ko na ang mga pangarap ko sa buhay na kasama sya. Siya ang dahilan kung bakit ako masaya. Siya ang dahilan kung bakit ako maligaya. At sa palagay ko, siya na ang habang buhay kong gusto makasama. :))

Diamonds are forever.

Never take a person for granted. Hold every person close to your heart 'cause you might wake up one day and realize that you've lost a diamond while you were busy collecting stones. Remember, diamonds are forever.